Dad's Wisdom - Part 3

3rd mail in the series


Hi Every One!

What ever u folks might rant,I'm back as a compulsive discourse-master to rattle out some of the random thoughts which cross my mind like a river gushing out of the montains.

U know I earlier defined marriage as MATURITY AIDED RELATIONSHIP REQUIRING INTIMACY,ADJUSTMENTS &GUIDED EQUALITY.let me refine it 4 u.It could also b defined as MUTUALLY ASSERTING RELATIONSHIP REDEEMING INTIMACY,AFFINITY &GENDER EQUALITY.It has a deper meaning. How? I'll explain.

It is very important to understand that the basic foundation of marriage rests upon the two-way n simultaneous flow of positive emotions depicting mutual care, concern,respect n sacrifice.U can not get away from this.Physical infatuation,intellectual compatibility or even 'gender-magnetisation'can not n will not become the foundations of maritial love.At best they are biological & psychological parameters explaining behavioural patterns of similiar human beings,albiet of different genders.There is a difference between various kinds of love.Pre-maritial love, whether arranged or self generated, is blind n full of formalities.It is so because u live in a world of dreams.Everything seems good.At times, people do cheat but they r abberrations.Such love will not last long.It will not lead to union of two minds- the ultimate goal of love.Similarly, if either of the two, cheats post-marriage, it will lead to maritial dischord,disharmony n friction.Post-maritial love demands true relationship because it is a real world.Niether of the partner can afford to show neglect &lack of attention towards eah other.

Sacrifice is not a one way traffic for females alone.Gents too will have to forgo a lot of pre-maritial activities if the love has to strengthen its bonding.Both must operate with open,receptive n pious mind to reinforce the moorings of love. THERE FORE ONE MUST NOTE THAT LOVE DEMANDS FROM THE PARTNERS PIETY OF THE MIND,FRANKNESS OF VIEWS N RIGHTEOUSNESS OF SELF CONDUCT.Love ,more so post-marriage,needs sanctity of conduct n purity of trust. This makes the relationship mutually assertive.It makes them adjust to each other freely. The leading gesture is voluntary suurender to each other or what u call intimacy.Both treat each other at par- a guided equality. This is the type of love which welds the two into a 'MADE-FOR-EACH-OTHER-PRODUCT' which empowers them collectively or singly to weather all social storms that rage in their lives or in the society.They ,thus acquire the capability to fulfil their social contract.And the big question. What is it?

Hold ur horses. It is not what u folks think.No, i'm not talking about social restrictions & social responsibilities.All of u r widely off the mark.Should I enunciate now or let it b in the next session.That is better.

OK Bye & tons of Love to all four.
PAPA