Dad's Wisdom - Part 5

5th one...

Hi Every one!

"Oh,God!He is here again".Did u say that? Well u better don't do that,for, I'm here to do the plain speaking.U know what is the biggest human vanity? It is sure outside ur vocabulary.'cause U people have been trapped behind the iron-doors of ur oversized egos n blinded by the self blinding logic of 'SELF RIGHTEOUSNESS'. Yes, this is the biggest human vanity.U want to accuse me of the same. Sure,go ahead.Welcome!

I tell u what.Have u heard of Bertrand Russel? How stupid of me to ask u this question? Isn't it? I should know most of u read only text book stuff.

Anyway , who was he? No, sorry,he was not a computer driver like U? Sorry again for addressing u as computer drivers for want of a proper nomenclature for ur profession.But why computer Drivers? Why not Pilots, professionals,Operators Or so on? Tell me.

Ok, wait.Let me complete the tale of Russel.He was a great 'Thinker' n a 'Social philospher' of 19th/20th Century.Once his student asked him," Sir, would u like to die for the principles u hold so dear to ur heart".

Russel thought for a while n said'" No, Never".The student was stunned,"But, Why Not"? " Because, I MAY BE WRONG" was Russel's reply. This is the catch.U KNOW DRIVERS NEVER THINK THEY MIGHT BE WRONG.AND THOSE WHO EAT, DRINK N LIVE BY COMPUTERS INVARIABLY DEVELOP THIS

KNOW-ALL ATTITUDE.After all computer is the answer for all human activities of the'THIRD WAVE SOCIETY'.NOW DON'T TELL ME U DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT IS A THIRD WAVE SOCIETY? GOD BLESS U ALL, U SURE HAVE MISMANAGED OR MALFUNCTIONING CEREBERAL TISSUES.I'm digressing but i don't want to lose an opportunity to provoke ur brain cells to get started and get on to the same grid as i 'm.

SELF-RIGHTEOUSNESS , U C IS AN ATIITUDINAL DISORDER ACQUIRED WHILE INTERACTING WITH UNKNOWN N ALIEN ENVIRONMENTS.It is the self guarding mechanism of the body which gets activated when u smell danger to ur self from something not known.U develop an attitude to be cautious in ur approach.Nothing wrong.

There comes a stage when u become a slave of ur inhibtions n u do not allow this attitude to be shed.

This prolonged inclination towards extra vigiliance leads to this disorder. U become secretive.u donot trust any one.U trust those people who sing ur songs. Psychophants, they say!Worst is u become friend of ur own enemies.These outsiders put up a facade to say they r ur well-wishers. BUT IN REALITY THEY SOW THE SEED OF A MARITIAL DISCHORD.BE WARE OF SUCH OUTSIDERS HOWEVER SWEET THEY MAY SEEM.LET ME TELL U ONE THING VERY CLEARLY IF U ADD SUGAR TO POISON IT DOES NOT BECOME A SWEET DISH. IF U CONSUME SURE IT IS A DISASTER FOR UR MARRIAGE.INTERFERENCE BY AN OUTSIDER IN UR MARRIED LIFE IS A SURE INVITATION TO UR MARITIAL DISCHORD.IF U ALLOW OUTSIDERS TO INTERFERE IN UR MARRIED LIFE,U BETTER KNOW , U SUFFER FROM SELF RIGHTEOUSNESS.UR OVERT WELL-WISHER IS ONLY SEEKING A REVENGE ON YOU N EXPLOITING UR DEPENDENCE ON HIS/HER BRAINS. THIS IS CALLED EMOTINAL BLINDNESS N THE LACK OF THE ABILITY TO REASON. U R A LIVING SLAVE OF SOME ONE WHO IS CHEATING U. SELF RIGHTEOUSNESS LEADS U INTO THIS. IF U PERSIST THIS DISORDER BECOMES INCURABLE N IT BRINGS ONLY MISERIES TO UR NEAR N DEAR ONES.PERHAPS,BY THEN U DON'T CARE FOR THEM.Do u want to become the cause of the miseries of ur near & dear ones,please go ahead with it n allow outsiders to interfere in ur married life.It is a mental disorder which is doomed to bring u nothing in life at the end of the day.U only repent.But by then life has gone past u. Control outside interference,n u must to bring happiness to everyone. This disorder causes distrust in partners;leads to self-seeking goals;indifference n intolearnance towards those who question ur wrong-doing.SELF RIGHTEOUSNESS IS THE FOUNDATION STONE OF A DEADLY VIRUS CALLED 'MERI- MARZI'.U know how? OK, hold for a while.

Have u read Thomas Harris? May be some of u might have glanced through his famous treatise on human communications. Don't tell me u haven't heard of the book,"I'M OK, U R OK!" ? Now what can i say if u haven't? Let me tell u do't b afraid of reading.U know if u read one book a day(each book of 200pages) n u do it for ur life(Let's say for 100 years). At the end of it u would have only acquired 30% of the knowledge that is available in the word. This is the extent of ur ignorance n still u say u r MR/MS/MRS KNOW-ALL!
Alright, let me talk about a bit on 'I'M OK;U'R OK'.

This book is a master-piece on human-communications.It says every person has in him three states i.e.Parent,Adult n Child state.He/She communicates from one of these three states.Therefore to keep the communication going u ought to b in the same state,otherwise the communications will break down.Main theme is that every human being acquires one of the four postures in life. These r :-one,I'm not ok ,u r ok;two,I'm ok,u r not ok;three, i'm not ok, ur not ok n four,I'm ok , u r ok.Best is of course the last one.The first stage is acquired in the infancy only,even before the age of five.Later,environments, education,experiences nprocess of growing up which includes activities connected with both hardships n successes, convert him into one of the other three postures.The worst posture is of course 'I'M NOT OK, U R NOT OK'.The best no doubts is 'I'M OK ;U R OK'.It is invariably seen many PEOPLE adopt the posture:-'I'M OK; U R NOT OK'.This is also the stepping stone to the worst posture i.e, 'I'M NOT OK ; U R NOT OK'.This 'self acclaimed greatness' leads to self-serving philosophy 'MERI MARZI'.And this is the greatest enemyof 'MARRIAGE'.Remember in MARRIAGE' there is nothing known as 'MERI MARZI'. It is always 'HAMARI MARZI'. They say marriage is ultimately meeting of two minds.Two merge into one another.From an individual u become a couple.It is never an individual wish after marriage,what ever u were before marriage.If u believed in something else u ought not to have married.

Finally,let me tell u one thing very clearly, please never think in marriage u can cheat on each other.Also, remember the whole world is watching u.Sooner or later people will see through u if u have sustaining relationship merely on formalities.Marriage is a mutual responsibilty'.It can not survive on two strings pulling in different direction.The string which tied u together will snap if u:-

- INSIST ON SELF RIGTEOUSNESS
- 'MERI MARZI' BECOMES GUIDING PHILOSOPHY.
- U ALLOW MARRIAGE TO BECOME A PUBLIC AFFAIR N ALLOW OTHERS TO PEEP INTO UR LIFE.OUTSIDE INTERVENTION, WHOEVER HE/SHE MAYBE ,IS A SURE INVITATION FOR DISASTER.
- HIDE FACTS FROM PARTNERS. REMEMBER THERE R NO SECRETS BETWEEN HUSBAND N WIFE. IF U DO U R NOT ONE WHICH IS THE ANTI THESIS OF MARRIAGE.

So this is where i sign off today. Shall get back with more philosophy later.Bye n lots of love to u all.

Read it damnit, i spend so much time typing it.

LOVE RAJEE